Happens In Psychotherapy?
don't always know what to expect when entering therapy. They sometimes worry
they'll be judged or viewed as somehow weak or unable to manage their own
lives. Often these ideas are based on out-dated thinking, or sensationalized
dramas of TV and movies.
therapist, I see my job as helping people clarify their own values, make
decisions and act in ways that will lead to better achieving their own life
needs and desires, feel better personally, and have improved relationships with
come to therapy because they are having some kind of difficulty getting those
needs and desires met--either because of a medical condition such as
depression, anxiety or addiction, or situations in which their usual life
strategies and coping skills are not currently working for them.
sometimes gets a “bad rap” as being a place where the therapist tells people
what to do or imposes their own life values or “solutions” onto them.
the reverse is true. Therapy is a relationship created for the sole purpose of
helping people learn to have more control in their own life, function as
effectively as possible, and to skillfully and confidently act from the
standpoint of their own personal inner values and knowledge.
therapist, I honor your background, culture, relationships, spiritual beliefs
and life values. I have no interest in changing those things—as they are the
very qualities that make you “you.” My goal is to help you function in ways
that let you more effectively draw on these same personal values to move
be important to have an intake assessment. This is the place where I begin to
know what your overall life is like, as well as identifying particular areas
where you are having pain or difficulty.
"one-size-fits-all" approach to dealing with anyone in therapy. This
has led to confusion about what does happen. Each person has a unique situation
and life story, so there’s not just one theory or approach that would apply to
everyone. Rather, various approaches are more effective for particular needs.
usually wonder how long psychotherapy will take. "When will I start to
feel better?" is a question most people ask. There’s no exact answer to
that. It depends upon many factors.
concerns are very clear and need only several sessions until the person feels
able to manage on their own. These are usually situations where someone
has a relatively clearly defined problem that needs just some talking through
for them to handle it with confidence.
longer when there are multiple issues and concerns being addressed. Some
conditions do take longer to lessen or resolve. But one part of the goals is
always the same: to help a person achieve improved functioning in getting their
skills and strategies we commonly use for things are those we've developed over
the course of our lives in response to many situations. If newer or more
effective ways of handling things are needed, it might take time to let go of
old, reflexive ways of dealing with things while learning to use new ones.
psychotherapy deals with people--each of whom has unique needs
and abilities to get those needs met--it is impossible to say in advance how
many sessions will be needed to make the changes you desire. But it is possible
to talk early on about what concerns you want to deal with. In this way, you
will be helping to shape how the therapy will proceed.